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July 17, 2011

How do we deal with death when it comes our way? Many of us sort of expect that our grandparents will die before us. And yes we sort of think that our parents will go before us too. That seems like the way life should be…right? My poor mother though had to see 3 of her adult children buried before she was.

My nephew Christopher just passed away at age 30 on July 3rd because of a tragic car accident. It was so hard to suffer through a week of him being on life support and holding on to every word of the Drs and hoping and praying for a miracle. BUT his parents had to do what was the hardest thing I can think of for a parent to do…they had to give the word to take him off life support. How very, very hard! I felt so overwhelmed and I am not his parents… God was comforting me but what of my family and I was 3,000 miles away.

In the midst of this pain there were some blessings. First Chris’ parents were able to share Chris’ life with others through organ donation. Many people were helped in the midst of this tragedy. Also we now feel he was a Christian. What a relief to my heart when I heard that. BUT a 30 yr old isn’t supposed to die like this….and to leave behind a beautiful 7 yr old daughter. This has been one of the hardest things I have gone through…and I am just the aunt, not the parents. Please , please pray for his parents and Hayle his little girl. This Tuesday, July 19th would have been Chris’ 31st birthday. It will be a very hard day.

Here is a picture of Chris’ parents: my brother Harvey, my sister-in-law Sharon and Hayle Chris’ 7 year old daughter. This picture was taken at my mother’s funeral which was on June 16th. So it was a lot of losses in this month.

God continues to “hold” me and my family too. THANKS for all who have prayed for us in the time of deep grief. May you appreciate all the time you have with your lvoed ones.

Love, Jan for the Roaming Reimers

I was given this picture of Chris and Hayle from my sister-in-law a few weeks after his death.

Chris and Hayle

Treasure your loved ones!

July 2, 2011

I have not written here for a few weeks. Bear with me and you will understand why.

On June 6th I got a call from one of my brothers that my mother was not doing well. Mom had turned 90 on May 7th. I flew to her side and was able to even help care for her for a few days. She passed into heaven on June 11th. Kent as well as well as our daughter Kara and husband Nick all came to comfort and encourage me through the funeral and all the visiting. She leaves behind 7 children, 3 of my siblings are already in heaven too. She also leaves 23 grandchildren and I don’t even know how many great grand children and about 4 great-great grandchildren. Mom was a born again Christian and we know she is now in heaven. I will miss her a lot but I am so glad that she had such a full life. Here is the last picture of me and my mom together. I treasure it.

We flew back to Seattle and we went back to our routine here. We helped Kent’s father celebrate his 90th birthday last weekend. Dad seemed to really enjoy all the fun. We are glad that we are close enough to help with these special times. We drove back to Seattle on Sunday night.

On Monday my brother Harvey called me from Pennsylvania. His only son, 30 year old Christopher had been in a terrible car accident. He had serious brain injuries and other injuries as well. We spent a very difficult week praying for God’s will and for Chris to get better BUT Chris passed into eternity this morning.

His family are reeling. My brother and sister-in-law had helped Chris care for his only daughter Hayley who is only 7 years old. Chris had custody of Hayley and had her most of the time.

Please pray for the entire family, we are all trying to make sense of this kind of death. And it made me feel like wanting to tell you to treasure all the time you have with your loved ones. We never know how much time we will have.

May God bless you today!

Love Jan for the Roaming Reimers